Carol has passed away

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It is with great sadness that we have to inform Carol’s dear friends and readers, that Carol Fleming, aka American Bedu, passed away this morning.

Carol was a very strong and beautiful human being, she brought light and support to so many people, we will all miss her very much now.


Rest in peace dear friend

Carol Fleming – Al Alroush

10-09-1959   05-27-2013


Information about Carol’s funeral arrangements will be on Carol’s care page.

One of Carol’s last wishes was for ”American Bedu” to continue.
The administrators will need to work out how Carol’s blog will be kept alive, we will let you know in a few days.


115 Responses

  1. How sad… 😥

  2. Very sad news. Carol we are always with you. May Allah reward you for yr efforts.

  3. Rest in Peace! 😦

  4. So very sad to hear this. My thoughts are with Carol and her friends and family. It is my hope that her spirit will continue through American Bedu.

  5. My heart is saddened over her lost. She is now at peace. RIP Carol….

  6. May the departed soul rest in peace!!!

  7. We’ll miss you!

  8. Rest in peace Carol Fleming Al-Ajroush. A courageous woman with indomitable spirit, you led a remarkable life and the experiences and events you wrote about on your blog AmericanBedu were a revelatory window into life in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia when such a thing was a rarity. Thanks for all you gave us. I’m sorrowful you lost your battle to cancer but glad you’re reunited with your husband, Abdullah.
    ‘Inna lillahi wa inna illahi rajiun’ (إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ)

  9. Goodbye Carol. Safe journey. Thank you for everything.

  10. My thoughts are with Carol’ family and friends. She is with her husband now in a better place. She will be missed by many.

  11. I can’t believe it yet…..

  12. Thank you for everything Carol. Your readers will certainly miss you!

  13. 😥

  14. I agree that she will be reunited with her husband. She now has no more suffering.

  15. Goodbye Carol, I wish I could’ve gotten a chance to meet you irl, but you’ll be missed!

  16. My heartfelt condolences to all near and dear

  17. It is indeed a very sad news. I always thought she ll win this battle. I liked her blog posts specially about Pakistan and Islamabad. She was a blog friend. May she rests in peace and may Allah tala grant Sabr to the family.
    Carol I miss you.

  18. May she rest in peace. My deepest condolences to her loved ones. She did what she believed to be the right things to do and them very well.

  19. Rest in Peace Carol….

  20. Rest in peace .. in Jannah ..

  21. Rest in Peace Dear Carol. You will truly be missed. My prayers are going out to your family and loved ones ❤

  22. RIP Carol. My deepest condolences to her family and friends. I never met you but you were a wonderful blog friend.

  23. Inna lillahi wa inna illahi rajiun;
    It was time that was written for her to return to her Creator.
    She is now no more in pain and in peace. I feel very sad hearing this news.

    My condolences to the family and pray that you find strength to bear this huge loss. I know it is difficult to replace a parent but please find comfort in the knowing that she is at peace now and resting.

    I will miss her very much… Few hours ago I dreamt that she had passed on (same happened on the passing of my dear father) and I did not want to check the blog to find out if it was true but alas it was.

    Rest in Peace, Carol.

    I think one way this blog can continue is by asking people who live in KSA or have lived there to contribute as guest writers. The bridge can continue building.

  24. […] in your thoughts and prayers in the coming days. Her family continues to read her Facebook and her Blog, so feel free to leave your condolences and words of comfort at either […]

  25. Carol- you have provided a gathering place for so many of us for years. There is a global community that will now feel a void. Thank you for your time, your stories -the safe venue where we could vent and discuss issues. You will be sorely missed and long remembered my friend. Rest in peace.

    To Carol’s family, my condolences. You have lost someone truly special as you well know.

  26. Rest in Peace. Building bridges across cultures is a high calling indeed.

  27. I am so sorry to hear of Carol’s passing. She was young but she had lived a full life. As a young mother often isolated in Saudi her blog gave me a window into the world on days when I didn’t get out or have any meaningful conversations. She shared so openly and she has been in my thoughts and prayers since the news of her decline was made public.

    She leaves behind many blessings from the people she has touched and she will be sorely missed. Kind wishes to her family in this difficult time. It is always those left behind who bear the burden of loss. May God, or love, give you strength,

  28. What devastating news…. I only knew her through the interview she had with me and through reading her blog and updates, bur I feel so terribly sad. May God grant her eternal rest and comfort her family. Rest in peace, dear Carol. Your pain is over…..

  29. I was so saddened by this news, even if it was expected. I have followed her blog for quite a few years now and I had great respect for her. I only wish I had her ability to see the positive in so many things. She will be missed by her family and friends.

  30. She made a very big mark on this world. I hope she will be with her beloved now.

  31. I’m so sad. Love you, Carol. Rest in peace.

  32. Very terrible sad news ! Rest in peace Carol.

  33. Rest in peace sweet lady. I’m sure you’re now
    with the man you loved so well. God bless you.

  34. Inna lillahi wa inna illahi raaji un
    Rest in peace dear Carol and may you be reunited with your loving Prince.
    Condolences to all her loved ones….family and friends.

  35. Deeply sad right now…My condolences to the family,Carol made such an impact,with her blogs.She is now with her Saudi Prince,and no longer in in peace Carol. You will be missed…

  36. Rest In Peace

  37. My deepest condolences to the family and friends of this remarkable and well-loved woman, who had the rare ability of connecting people, often mere strangers, from opposite sides of the world and reminding us of our common bonds. May she rest in peace.

  38. I’m so very sad and will miss her sorely. I’m so enjoyed reading her posts everyday in my inbox and was so privileged to have spent many wonderful times with her over the last year. She was so very very kind thoughtful, curious, brave, patient, and full of the Lord. Am praying for her family. Peace to you all. Rest in peace Carol…I miss you already.

  39. God Bless you Carol, go in comfort, for all you’ve been remains to stay….

  40. I’m so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed her blog & zest for life, and appreciate her writing. May she rest without pain, with her dear husband.

  41. From God we come and to God we return.

    RIP, Carol. Your blog meant a lot to me and I always referred friends to it when they asked about life in the GCC, and particularly KSA. I always admired the way that you approached Muslims, Islam, and life in an Muslim country with great respect, understanding, and a healthy dose of humor. You will be greatly missed.

  42. I bookmarked this blog a few years ago and was shocked to learn Carol had cancer. Somehow I thought (hoped) she beat it even though few do.
    This is the saddest news. I don’t know if she goes anywhere else or will be with anyone else but what does it matter? She won’t be here.

    Courage to her family.


  43. […] American Bedu has passed away today after a long battle with cancer. I always felt that we were good friends despite the fact that our friendship was digital. I suspect that all the people whose paths crossed with Carol felt the same way. […]

  44. This is truly sad news. May she rest in peace.

  45. Rest in peace, Carol. My deepest condolences for friends and family. It surprises me how deeply I feel shaken with Carol’s passing. I guess it proves how present her blog was, how real for me. I will miss you and your blog, Carol

  46. felt very sad after receiving the news through a friend. she was a great blogger and a wonderful human being. tried to meet her but my schedule never worked out, and I regret that now.
    condolences to her family and friends. may she rest in peace. Amen.

  47. We are made from stardust. Stars died so we could live. We are part of this universe, the universe is in us. At the end we are not lost but return to the universe as stardust.

    Carol, when you were here with us your light brightened our lives. Through you a light was brought into my life which will never be extinguished.
    Thank you Carol, I love you.

  48. Arab news published an article on carol.

  49. I never met her and yet thru her blog I did. She touched me. I wished she knew that. In a way I am sure she does. I hope her legacy continues thru this blog she created. Wish her a good continuance..

  50. My deepest condolences. her spirit while she suffered impressed me profoundly. May she rest in peace. Her family deserve to be very proud of her. God bless her.

  51. I am shocked and saddened to hear that Carol has passed away. As a Saudi-American myself, I felt Carol’s efforts to explain Saudi society and life to the outside world was a wonderful effort and a reflection of her love for Saudi Arabia. Her voice will be missed.

  52. Rest In Peace. A life well-lived.

  53. O my God! O Thou forgiver of sins, bestower of gifts, dispeller of afflictions!
    Verily, I beseech Thee to forgive the sins of such as have abandoned the physical garment and have ascended to the spiritual world.
    O my Lord! Purify them from trespasses, dispel their sorrows, and change their darkness into light. Cause them to enter the garden of happiness, cleanse them with the most pure water, and grant them to behold Thy splendors on the loftiest mount.
    You are deeply missed Carol. My condolences to your family.

  54. I am so very sorry to hear this. Carol and her family are in my thoughts.

  55. Rest in peace, Carol. This is so sad…

  56. what a beautiful and open women we lost. such a strong soul I loved her blog . as a American married to a Saudi reading her journey has helped me so much. rip and all my love and prayers going to her family

  57. Rest in peace dear friend…

  58. rest in peace and find happiness next to your husband…

  59. Reblogged this on Critical Thinking – A World View.

  60. Rest in peace, a very sad day for us followers….

  61. Dear Carol rest in peace.

  62. Innalillahiwainnalillahirajiun…

    Although I knew this day would come after reading the last update about Carol, it still saddens me. Death…is the least desired but the closest to us….unto God we return…

  63. God Bless You Carol and Rest Your Soul. As so many on here have said: I wish I could have known you in real life, you are a strong female role model, an inspiration, beautiful woman. Now you can be at peace. To her family, may your sorrows be softened by the memories of her.

  64. […] Their post can be found here. […]

  65. Rest in peace dear friend

  66. Sad to know about this..

  67. Best in peace dear Carol. Thank you for providing us with this website and a place where people can meet and help each other.

    My heart is with you and your loved ones. May you live on eternally through your sweet gestures that bring us here to your website.

  68. My heart is breaking after hearing this sad news. 😦 my condolence to her family and love ones.

  69. Sadness filled my heart at the moment of reading the news. Ma’am Carol may you rest in PEACE in the palm of Almighty. My sincere condolence to her family. Thank you ma’am Carol for sharing us a part of your life through your website. It’s an honor to know you in the short span of time that i’ve been reading your blog daily. I will miss your blog, your ideas and comments and most of all you as a friend. Goodbye ma’am Carol.

  70. I am so sad to hear this news. Carol was truly inspiring and a courageous woman! May she rest in peace with her beloved husband Abdullah. My condolences to her family and close friends.

  71. May her soul rest in peace.

  72. I pray her soul to rest in peace. Thank you Carol for your kind help years ago. I always read your blog when I need information. Your knowledge and kindness will continue. My deep condolences to your family and friends.

  73. Such sad news & a shock for me as I haven’t been reading the blog for a while, but been thinking about Carol. Thank you great warrior! May Allah SWT grant you Jannah!

  74. RIP Carol… My condolences to the family….

  75. Rest in peace, a very sad day for us followers….

  76. I havent visted the blog in a very long time, years in fact. I am sad Carol has passed and I wish her family the best in this rough time. RIP.

  77. My deepest condolences to her family. Carol was a blogger who provided an honest window of life in Saudi Arabia and her blog was always respectful of Islam, Muslims and the Kingdom. She was one of the first blogs I started to read and follow on a regular basis. Her voice will be missed. RIP.

  78. Carol, I never met you but loved reading all that you wrote! May you rest in peace! xx

  79. Losing a loved one is the hardest thing anyone ever goes through. My thoughts and prayers are to the family, she was wonderful to all of us whether we met her in person or not. My thought is that she is reunited with the great love of her life, Abdullah, and will continue their love for all eternity.

  80. The last time that Carol was in the hospital she was feeling very poorly. I was a volunteer that day and walked into her room not knowing that she was there. I immediately asked would she like one of her favorite milkshakes from Cook Out. She rallied with a big smile and said : ” SNICKER DOODLE ! ” When I left her memorial service today, I immediately went across the street and ordered the same. It was as sweet as your smile, Carol.

  81. i found this blog one day a couple of years ago. Carol’s understanding of the kingdom and her sharing for how her prince Abullah could love her and she was excepted by is family brought peace to my heart. I met a Saudi in College and had just been reunited with him when i stumbled on her blog. It was because of her blog that I was finally able to understand him….
    Carol was like a pebble dropped into a stream…. the effects of the ripples that have traveled and have changed and touch people will never be full known…..
    I know the pain of loosing a love one can never be fully eased, but I hoping knowing that Carol’s love has touched so many will help…
    She will now be with the man she loved and that loved her so dearly…
    Rest in peace…

  82. I look back on my first meeting with Carol with great fondness. We had the opportunity to work together for a short while and just hit it off. It was wonderful to see how in love she was with Abdullah and he with her. They had my daughter and I over for dinner and they both did everything possible to make sure she was happy, she was probably two or three at the time. it was a lovely evening and I will continue to think of the two of them with smiling faces. May Carol’s life be a blessing to all who knew her. Rest in peace, your kindness will live on.

    To her family, you will be in my thoughts and prayers,

  83. May her soul rest in peace. I’d like to thank her for her enjoyable and informative blog about Saudi Arabia.

  84. Though death is inevitable and we all know about it, it is so very difficult to hold back tears when those who are dear to you leave you. Carol I was afraid to open your blog for this very reason these days, bidding you a final farewell from this world. Rest in peace wherever you might be.

  85. Though I never commented, I enjoyed Carol’s articles and appreciated and respected her efforts. I didn’t always agree, but I could see how hard she worked to provide a balanced and high-quality reading experience. It seemed that Carol strove to for excellence in everything she did, and this blog is certainly no different. Carol we are praying for you. May Allah have mercy on you and reunite you with your husband. Ameen.

  86. Carol’s the type of person that would do just about anything to help someone in need. I always valued her advice and positive, practical, yet adventurous spirit. One of the things I remember her pointing out to me multiple times was “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” Although I believe she’s in a better place now, I’m really gonna miss her!

  87. I just learned and am very sad. Rest in peace, dear Carol.

  88. It’s been awhile since I checked out this blog…very sad to hear the news. Energy is neither lost or destroyed, it just changes form. I wish Carol’s family comfort in this time of sadness.

  89. May all of you, her friends and family who will miss her so terribly, find healing and comfort. Thanks for keeping the electronic community informed through this difficult time.

    And lastly, may Carol be dancing and laughing for joy in the arms of her Prince!

  90. I just checked this site with an objective to get an update on American Bedu’s health. It is something I have been doing since I came across her blog! It’s sad to know of your passing. Happy journey ahead! Your carefree days are back!

  91. Returning to post here again hoping she can read these messages from her new existence- It’s a testament to your character and hard work that this blog has such a loyal following from such a diverse and dispersed group of people. Really, really well done.

  92. Rest in peace Carol Fleming Al-Ajroush..
    ‘Inna lillahi wa inna illahi rajiun’ (إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ)

  93. I would just like to say that this news has upset me deeply. I reached out to Carol about a year ago when I was going through a terrible time in my life and her kind words and expertise put me at ease. She spent a significant amount of time talking me through everything I was going through and ensuring I would be okay. I will forever appreciate her generosity.

  94. Rest in peace, dear Carol. I’m sure you are reunited with your love Abdullah. Please tell my father I love him. Thank you for everything, and may God bless you and your family/friends at this time.

  95. Sad to hear about carols passin on…my condolences to her family…just curious..was carol buried according to Islamic rites?would luv to get an update….

  96. @Daffodil of June 7
    We never thought she was Muslim?

  97. Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un

    Deepest and heartfelt condolences to Carol’s family. May God rest her soul and bless it to be reunited with the one whom she lived, ameen. On days where I struggled in Riyadh as an expat, I found her blog to be inspirational and full of positive thoughts. Never met her but feel like she knew us! Subhan’Allah.

  98. She was a “muslimah” but sadly went back to christianity.

  99. I learned of this news only today, and am so sorry. I discovered Carol’s blog years ago, commented occasionally (but read regularly!), and as an expatriate in Riyadh for six years in the 1990s appreciated her mix of honesty and humor. I trust that she and Abdullah are off exploring new worlds now.

  100. Sarah, does it matter? It’s still the Jewish wargod Jahweh. And of course Jahweh doesn’t really exist so it doesn’t matter at all.

    And I do think there are more important and interesting subjects to touch on when we talk about Carol that a discussion about which sect of which imaginary friend she believed in.

  101. AA, I was just responding to someone’s comment. And it matters to Carol imaginary or not.

  102. Sarah,

    Respectfully, I think Aafke’s problem came from the “sadly” part. Regardless of what you believe in (or don’t), what’s done is done, and to say sadly or unfortunately to such a thing can be a bit painful for others to hear, as, at best, speaking of someone’s religious beliefs in a negative way after their death just undermines the deeds and spirit of the person, and, at worst, we understand the implication behind the words “sadly she went back to Christianity.” As a Muslim, I know why this is troubling in Islam, and, as the truth still isn’t out, I think what we perceive as unfortunate religious changes and other trivial things after death is best left unsaid.

    I know you didn’t mean anything by it, but to have just said that she went back to Christianity would have been sufficient to answer a question. For the future, I suppose.


  103. Sarah,

    Also, I forgot to add that I only learned this by making similar mistakes–a lot!



  104. TE, thanks for correcting me. I agree with you and I see it was it was not right on my part to mention “sadly”. It was unintentional and I did not think before writing that. Subconscious thoughts maybe.

    Only the Creator can judge us in whatever faith we are in so it is really not “upto” us to judge anyone. I do sincerely apologize to anyone who was hurt by my comment.

    Thanks again.

  105. Sarah,

    Do not worry, I could tell you are very kind and meant well! I do this all the time; it always comes down to one word that I used that I didn’t properly think out, and I am always glad when people point it out to me, too. I mean well, but I don’t always keep up with my own vocabulary!

    Take care,


  106. @Sarah, There is no point to be sorry. Whatever you said you said it according to your belief. However its enough now .

  107. Sarah and TE, thank you both for being understanding

  108. rest in peace Carol, you will be missed..

  109. Good bye Carol. You shall be missed. I only heard the sad news today after a long time offline. God bless you and my your blog keep living.

  110. On the days when I really miss Carol, I find it helps to go back and read her comments. It’s interesting to see how the tone of her writing changed over the years, but in a way I think it helps me to understand her better and keep the memories of her alive. Sometimes, I like to think of her as the aunt/second mother I never got the chance to really know. I feel like she understood me better than just about anyone.

  111. Curious…in what ways do you detect her tone changed? I always appreciated her positive attitude. Even when she had to scold us she did so lovingly as “Mother Hen Bedu.” Miss her!

  112. @Susanne,
    For me, I feel like Carol’s energy level came through in the way she wrote. At least, that’s what I thought while reading through the Archive Debate Page. I’ve always admired her optimism, spunk, ability to listen well to just about anyone (whether or not she agreed), and sense of adventure. I don’t think that ever really changed.

  113. I miss Carol! As I am writing my next novel there are a few questions about scenarios in the book I could sure use her help to get the right perspective and cultural situation correct. She always gave me the best information from her experiences in Saudi Arabia.
    Before she died, I had decided to walk in the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer in Charlotte, NC on October 26-27, 2013. She had asked me to visit her while I was in Charlotte and I was very much looking forward to spending time with her. Unfortunately, she has died before I got to do that.
    I am dedicating my walk to her memory. I am raising funds now to support Avon’s work to help those affected by breast cancer. I am asking all of you who read her blog to kindly donate to this event, in her memory. I am providing a link so you can donate. I am trying to raise $2000.00. Your donation will be credited to my fund raising which I have designated to her memory. I will be carrying Carol’s picture with me while I walk the distance in Charlotte.
    Thanks to all of you!!!!
    (I could also use some help still with this next book if any one of you from Saudi would like to help with your knowledge.)

  114. So sad, I enjoyed reading her posts so much.

  115. I just learned of Carol’s passing and I am deeply saddened.

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